Hi, I'm Hunter

I'm a coach specializing in communication and relationships. I’m particularly knowledgeable about ethical non-monogamy and consensual power exchange dynamics. I work with people who are building relationships that don't fit the standard mold. I’ve personally lived these relationships for over twenty years and pride myself on that.

My clients include kinky people, Dominants and submissives navigating power exchange, folks in polyamorous and other non-monogamous configurations, queer and trans people, sex workers, and anyone else whose life and love exist outside the mainstream. You don't have to translate yourself for me.

What coaching is (and isn't)

Coaching is a collaborative, forward-focused process. We work on communication, structure, agreements, conflict, transitions, and whatever is getting in the way of the relationships you actually want. It's practical and relational, not therapy, not clinical treatment, and not licensed mental health counseling. If you're navigating something that needs clinical support, I'll say so and help you find it.

That said, this work can go deep and touch identity, history, and the stories we carry about what we deserve. I bring care and nuance to that, including for people who've been harmed by religious institutions or traditional frameworks, and are building something new on their own terms.

Background

I hold a Master of Arts in Social Change with a chaplaincy concentration and a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology with a concentration in LGBT and Sexuality Studies. I am ordained clergy in good standing through the Order of Universal Interfaith, which is a formal accreditation recognizing professional chaplaincy and ministerial training, not an online credential. That training and personal formation informs how I hold space without imposing any particular framework on you.

I've maintained a private practice in counseling and coaching for over a decade, specializing in queer communities, trauma recovery, harm reduction, and alternative relationship structures. Before that, I spent years doing street outreach in San Francisco, including work with Bad Date List programs and other grassroots harm reduction efforts. I also served as Campaign Director and Media Liaison for Proposition K, San Francisco's 2008 prostitution decriminalization initiative.

I currently facilitate Sex Worker Sangha, a monthly meditation group for sex workers through the East Bay Meditation Center offering community, reflection, and support in an ongoing virtual space.

I'm a contributing author to The Holy Hour: An Anthology on Sex Work, Magic, and the Divine (Working Girls Press, 2024). My research has been supported by a grant from the Mahindra Center for the Humanities at Harvard University.

My work and advocacy have been recognized by the Associated Press, SF Chronicle, and LA Times. I've spoken at universities and conferences across the country and internationally, including at the People's Health Assembly in Cape Town, South Africa.